example, if you have lost your husband or wife of many years, the grieving process will “look” much different than if you have lost a newborn infant. Why? Well, one major reason is that you have formed habits of life with that husband or wife that, in many ways, define who you are as a person. The newborn infant’s loss does not involve long-lasting habits. The pain is just as severe, but the process of grieving that loss will differ in many respects from the loss of one’s husband or wife. There are